The way most of us have been wired is to NOT BE FREE. So you come to this world and you're this being with all these sensations: crying, getting angry, happy and you have all of these feelings and everyone around you is conditioning you, wiring you, shaping you and training you to keep it all in... Under control: to be appropriate, to be constrained, to NOT be free.
I remember being at the beach a couple months ago back in LA. We were on the parking lot and there was this family, they had a surfing board and the parents were in front and the kids (like a four year old boy and an eight year old girl) were right behind them.
And the father moves the surfboard and the girl who's behind, gets knocked down by the little fin from underneath the surfboard. It hits her right in the mouth and she starts bleeding and crying.
Straight away the parents turned around and (I’m not saying they were evil parents, but it's just the conditioning we've all been under) said: “No, It's NOTHING, it’s nothing. You're okay”.
So it’s like: I'm getting hit in the mouth. This is painful. I'm bleeding, I'm hurt. My body feels the pain and chemically wants to release some emotion and some tears, and the people who are supposed to protect me and love me and help me are telling me it's NOTHING and I have to stop crying….
It is just an example but... If you're upset, your parents will try to fix whatever it is that you're being upset with so you STOP feeling upset.
If you're angry, they'll definitely tell you NOT TO YELL and to not be angry.
If you're too joyful, they'll tell you to TURN IT DOWN.
SO YOU HAVE IN FACT BEEN WIRED TO BE LOCKED UP, to contain everything inside. That's what you're wired for. That's what you're raised for. That's what you're conditioned for in this society nowadays.
Maybe it won't be the same way in a hundred years, but for now this is the world and the culture we live in and authentic emotions ought to be … suppressed!
So yeah… You can imagine where that leaves you as an actor!
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